Part 1 in The Secret To Setting Goals is about asking yourself key questions that reveal your ideal day. Once that’s clear, you can set goals to achieve it instead of becoming overwhelmed by the bigger picture.
When you’re envisioning what your ideal life looks like, try just bringing it back to one perfect day.
Think about your ideal day. Not the best day of your life, sitting on the beach drinking cocktails, or ice-cream for breakfast followed by a trip to Disneyland… but your ideal average day. The kind of day you’d like to live most of in your life, when the holiday is over. (Although holidays are fun, after a few weeks or months you’d get bored!) It’s a great way to set goals that stick.
Too often people set goals (e.g. getting that promotion) without thinking about how they want to spend their actual days (i.e. working from home or a flexible location, not in a high-stress corporate job). We need to start at the beginning and work up. Imagine what your ideal average day looks like, be very clear, write it down almost hour-for-hour if that’s how organised you like to be. Then you can set specific, one-step-at-a-time goals that are aligned toward you achieving this ideal day on a consistent basis.
Take some time, free from distraction, to sit down and write in your journal. I know it seems like you don’t have time, but it’s worth it. I do this a lot with my clients and it’s incredible the kinds of conclusions they come to – things they never thought to do that would lead them to a more fulfilled, ideal life.
One of my clients was working in a high-stress job that was stressing her out but she really thrived at being busy, meeting deadlines and being challenged. She thought that she wanted to have a more flexible job where she could work from home and write freelance and focus on her own projects, but when she tried that, she ended up becoming more anxious without regular human contact. Instead of envisioning a life of a nomad as the end goal, we pared it back to answers about her ideal day, like the ones below. We figured out that her ideal day was one where she started the morning slowly and could work from home if she wasn’t feeling up to the fast pace of the office, or if she needed to focus on a particular project. Plus, she negotiated with her boss to drop down to four days a week so she had an extra day to start a blog, write, rest or rebalance ready for the following work week. In that way, she’s found a balance between the goal she originally perceived (quitting her job to work from home all the time), to a more flexible working week in the role she really does love.
A lot of people think they would love to work from home, but we don’t all have that personality. The reality can be very different. It’s important to get to the heart of who you are and what your ideal day looks like, rather than what you think looks good on Instagram or by comparing to your friends. The grass is always greener, as they say.How often do you sit with your own thoughts and answer questions about your ideal day? Now is the time to start. Remember, the clearer the better. According to the laws of attraction, if we’re clear on what we want, we’re more likely to get it. Read about the interesting debate between psychologists on the Law of Attraction here
Where do you live?
What does your house look like?
Who would you live with?
How do you start your day?
What do you eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner?
What work do you do?
What mundane activities do you do?
Who would you interact with?
What would you talk about?
Now you’re clear on your ideal day, write down what you need to do in each part of your life to get there (e.g. start a business on the side, leave your unfulfilling job, move interstate, write 500 words a day). Then break it down into smaller chunks and more manageable, actionable goals to implement, like I shared in this post here
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